x = closure
I have traveled to and from many locations, and have passed by Los Angeles landmarks. Between stops I tend to reflect on life's incidents, while staring out the metro's looking glass. On these rides I witness many different types of people, families, and couples. So, I tend to contemplate around the lessons of my own relationship and the social ills of my family, more than once.
Recently, nearly after 10 years of separation and divorce; we found ourselves discussing the root causes of our internal conflict with one another; mother, father and son. Issues that kept the heads of the family at major discomfort and moments of leaving our seeds without sensible parents.
There are many relationships labeled complicated, not only between husband and wife, but also between the children and their parents. No one truly talks about this and we associate around others almost as nothing is wrong; but there are families truly lost in translation around you. It came to a point for us... after experiencing more discomfort, diving head first into work, and the seed beginning to ignore and/or burying emotions not expressing true thoughts. All of this can and have affected our mental and physical performance, one way or another.
This journey at times was like a turbulent flight that only served peanuts and no water. After a few court battles, injuries and the loss of self-esteem; changing this narrative and shifting its paradigm toward forgiveness or at least a more sensitive understanding slowly began its approach.
"the bad shapes us and the good rewards us"
Our relationship was good at one time. Experiencing different joys and evolutionary growth as individuals. Early in the marriage; I took on a new spiritual direction and became a social entrepreneur, which re-iterated my personal views on life; but I was still naive immature about knowledge. The woman's livelihood became more stable; subsequently she did not know how to deal with her husband's choices and their son found strength on the court, but had problems with his parents' outcomes on the home field. Then the system broke down into discomfort and became difficult.
Basically we were your average working couple with children; but did not have true support and/or marriage mentors for guidance and direction. Not until we experienced more of life's lessons, did we begin to better apply spirituality more wisely. Also learning to express our thoughts in a more enhanced respectful manner - only then light began to appear. This light is necessary in order to maintain new life, opportunities, and progress; without having the guilt of failure hover over us.
- how many of you are living within an unresolved situation
- while your mental and physical state is deteriorating
- Are you getting along with your teenager or is he/she spending every weekend with relatives or school friends away from home? Well the following definition is necessary to approach...
This is when everyone involved has to "Step Up or Step Back" and practice "Intent and Impact" guarding oneself from one's self with discipline curving the angered frustration, for the sake of achieving progress. Not for reconciliation, but to strengthen individual morale behavior and heal a person's hearts. Each member set aside emotional tempers, blind tunnel vision, and release buried feelings. Simply focused on speaking an open truth of sincerity. It's work in progress and takes more than one attempt. For us it took countless lonely nights, another failed relationship, and to become emotionally truthful. Yep, all this for the Passenger's family to have closure.
clo·sure/ˈklōZHər/ An act or process of closing something, esp. an institution, thoroughfare, or frontier, or of being closed.
Things learned along the way...
- "Allah (proper Arabic word for God) will not change the condition of a people, until they change the condition in their hearts"
- Be the change you want to see, and seek humility to achieve respect
- Understand others to understand yourself
- Do not over-stand or under-stand but comprehend indicating factors with consideration
- Newly married couples should have a mentoring couple who have time and experience true advice
- Beware aware of taking advice from your single disgruntle friends
- and Basically - Grow up!
Passenger on Wisdom Wednesday, about the way he challenged the unfair treatment on women of color.
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