Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Wisdom Wednesday "Would you marry me... 'Naw I rather stay single"

Wisdom Wednesday are thoughts for social conversations and sharing our honest opinions, ideals and Wisdom. All of us have a value worth sharing; it may motivate another to stop, continue and/ or begin a certain process in their personal or social development.

"Would you marry me... 'Naw I rather stay single" 

Last night we discussed marriage as an institution of protection, provision and comfort; a place of intimacy, family and mutual respect. We asked each other 3 questions...
  1. Why should we consider marriage?
  2. How come we have not married him/her yet?
  3. What is the reason most prefer being single?
Answers were; not ready to let go of so-called freedom, have not found that ideal person, but the common purpose is, "waiting for growth and stability prior to any commitment."

  2 friends mentioned,
  • "50% of moral responsibility" 
  • and also "to avoid an unhealthy and lonely lifestyle."
Keep in mind these were answers come from people I know locally here in Los Angeles, California; so I entertain an open chat conversation with a friend from Indonesia and here was our conclusion...
" reality, the right person is under our nose but our arrogance and/ or humility prevents a connection. Subsequently, we carry the luggage of an ideal situation that only exist within our imagination or conscious...hmmm"
     Truly in each case everyone's point is valid, deeply felt within our own personal experiences. The U.S. divorce statistics are an inhibiting major factor, it leaves a bitter discourse; especially after being 2 time divorcee - a sense of failure can develop. In this conversation, both the Muslim and Christian agrees marriage is "Moral Responsibility" a shelter for procuring lawful intimacy and a family's nourishment.

In conclusion, the best Wisdom is that of our Creator and words of His inspiration...

The Bible says...."For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall be become one flesh. This mystery is great: but I am speaking concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless, let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband."....Ephesians 5:31-33

Allah says...."And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought."... Surah 30:21 (The Romans)

You know how it is after you get the word, str8 to the club, what? Lol...

Wisdom Wednesday...#createavoice "I told you about our personality...expect it"


  1. Its fear. Most people are afraid of complications in relationships. They are unprepared for marriage. They are disilllustional about it. Marriage is the metamorphosis of the caterpillar going in the concoon (marriage) to become a butterfly. Relax, be good and be better everyday u have the opportunity to share with your mate. Marriage is the concoon to become a butterfly, stop trying to be a caterpillar by staying unevolved. Siddiq Mumin

  2. I loved the blog and totally agree with the comment above. I believe that we are making excuses for not being married. We bring complication to the relationship, not the relationship bring complication to us. If many would focus on the now and learn how to share and know that your heart is not really beating with out its' other perfect half, we would have so much success. The single life is only fun for so long. Your truth come when you know how to grow as one with someone.

  3. I like this....I'll say most people choose not to marry because they don't want to deal with the COMPLICATION that comes with it.