Wisdom Wednesday are thoughts for social conversation and sharing our honest opinions, ideals and Wisdom. All of us have a value worth sharing; it may motivate another to stop, continue and/ or begin a certain process in our personal or social development.
a term used to describe a relationship status. According the movie Social Network, it's a driving force of social life and it's the first bit of information sought out on profiles. Is it a social label for "holding on" or just an excuse. A blog-ver-sa-tion that can go in any direction, but it's worth a conversation. Hopefully these 3 situations, can shed some light. Let's see....
"Been in this relationship with you since high school and we've experienced, mostly all the challenges a single couple can endure. Though a courtship is not marriage, our bond is considered exclusive. It has been five years since our high school graduation. When our friends asked I say, "we are still together" it seems matrimony would be an obvious next step. During our intimate moments and the marriage topic surfaces I hear, I'm not ready. "OMG!" I'm thinking "what-why" am I wasting my time, so we compromise and decide moving into our own place. So now I'm cooking you dinner while nurturing our newborn's smiles and I'm thinking, Wow...."
"I recently divorced, we mainly split over financial difficulty. Though, that should not be a driving factor for divorce, the arguments were getting too intense. The loud disagreements starting bothering our relatives and the children so much - the police department gave us the final warning the last time our neighbors called. Now after the divorce, we are still having sex. Our faith is a driving factor, but having no sex and after having sex is a physical hardship. We find ourselves still together after each holiday, birthday or any day the wind blows too hard. Our finances have not gotten any better, and we still have no closure. Recently I got news, about an interested community member who is well respected is asking about me. I'm breaching my spiritual commitment with my ex and now I'm getting a responsible inquiry about my status...."
"We have been neighbors for years, and basically we function some sincere feelings under a platonic friendship. Our family adores the support we give each other. We look nothing alike each, but we commonly get the brother and sister comments from people. Our relationship with others never last and on numerous occasions, others have accused us of being more than friends. Our bond has been considered a burden for others, but not to us. We keep each other secrets, we actually know and have done too much together - a trust few experience. Honestly we try to create what we have together with others and each time, those attempts fail..."
It seems today many are suffering under the social label "It's Complicated". Good people entrapped within their own imagination for happiness. Seeking means of Matrimony, Closure and/ or the Honest Truth. Wanting to have a sane and healthy relationship is normal. Building up courage to stand as strong logical adults, is a move many of us need to do. Remaining in fiction only deteriorates the remaining life we have left. There is no real answer for human behavior, but discipline. A step in a logical direction for comfort would be the best decision for complicated issues and the sake of sanity.
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